22 8 / 2014

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22 8 / 2014

thylaed:

shout out to people who are scared to call others out, whose hands shake when they try to explain what’s wrong, whose throats threaten to close up with thoughts of ‘what if i’m just overreacting’, whose hearts are pounding out of their chests because they just stuck their necks out for their beliefs, who have lost friends and respect and safety for aligning themselves with causes

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22 8 / 2014

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22 8 / 2014

Finding Alternative Thoughts

  • Yo: Am I only noticing the bad stuff? Am I filtering out the positives?
  • Yo: Am I assuming I know what others are thinking? What’s the evidence? Are those are my own thoughts, not theirs?
  • Yo: Am I thinking that I can predict the future? How likely is it that that might really happen? Am I predicting the worst-case scenario?
  • Yo: Am I comparing myself to other people? Am I comparing my “bloopers” to their “highlight reel”?
  • Yo: Would most people who really know me say that about me? Is this something that I am totally responsible for? Would I say these things to a friend in the same situation?
  • Yo: Am I putting more pressure on myself, setting up expectations of myself that are almost impossible? What would be more realistic?
  • Yo: I’m making an evaluation about the situation or person. It’s how I make sense of the world, but that doesn’t mean my judgments are always right or helpful. Is there another perspective?
  • Yo: Just because it feels bad, doesn’t necessary mean it is bad. My feelings are just a reaction to my thoughts – and thoughts are just automatic brain reflexes.
  • Yo: Am I exaggerating the good aspects of others, and putting myself down? Am I exaggerating the negative and minimizing the positives? What’s the bigger picture?
  • Yo: OK, thinking that the worst possible thing will definitely happen isn’t really helpful right now. What’s most likely to happen?
  • Yo: Things aren’t either totally white or totally black – there are shades of grey. Where is this on the spectrum?
  • Yo: This is just a reminder of the past. That was then, and this is now. Even though this memory makes me feel upset, it’s not actually happening again right now.
  • (adapted from www.dbtselfhelp.com/FindingAlternativeThoughts.pdf)

22 8 / 2014

black-quadrant:

every day:

  • go outside to feel the sun (5-15 minutes is recommended)
  • if there is no sun step outside and inhale fresh air
  • drink water - the more cups the better
  • listen to one song that makes you happy
  • talk to one person you like - do not hesitate to reach out
  • stretch; don’t forget about your body
  • smile in the mirror

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22 8 / 2014

"I will never be enough for you, until I search inside and find the way, to be enough for me."

21 8 / 2014

21 8 / 2014

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21 8 / 2014

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21 8 / 2014

21 8 / 2014

"

Be kind to yourself. Stop telling yourself that whatever you are struggling with “should” be easy. If something is hard for you, it is hard for you. There are probably Reasons, though those may just be how you are wired. Acknowledge these things. When you finish something hard, be proud! Celebrate a little.

And really, just stop saying “should” to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. Stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now–it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward.

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21 8 / 2014